Difference as a Superpower

For much of my life, I’ve tried to fit in, to be like everyone else. It’s a behavior that psychologists often attribute to our innate need for community and connection. Personally, I think it stems from a childhood experience of feeling different and not wanting the attention it drew.

As a quiet and shy child in a large, boisterous Arab family, I often felt out of place. I’m half-American, half-Arab. When I lived in Kuwait, people would constantly ask about my American side. I didn’t understand why it was so important, and honestly, I hated the attention.

When I moved to the U.S., I thought I’d finally blend in. Instead, I was constantly asked (and even teased) about my Arab side. I began to realize that no matter where I was, I would stand out. Being the center of attention was never something I enjoyed, so I subconsciously began to act like everyone around me in an attempt to blend in.

This habit of blending in continued into my professional life. If my opinion differed from others, I’d question myself and assume I must be wrong. If my likes and dislikes were different, I’d hide the fact and conform with those around me. But the truth is: I don’t blend in. I am different, even from my closest friends. AND THAT’s OK! In fact, it’s my uniqueness that makes me who I am, and it’s the source of my strength.

Eventually, my true self began to leak out, as if I just couldn’t hide myself any longer.  Surprisingly, it was met with acceptance and even respect. I realized that people wanted to see the real me. That was empowering.

I’m sharing this because as leaders, we need diversity of thought. There are plenty of people who are willing to agree with leaders, and not enough people willing to challenge them.  The more I learned to express myself confidently, respectfully, and with evidence, the more successful I became.

It wasn’t always easy. As someone who still doesn’t enjoy being the center of attention, I had to find ways to step outside my comfort zone. Over time, I found my voice—and by doing so, I helped others find theirs. I brought different perspectives to the table and contributed to better decision-making. Most importantly, I could be more of my authentic self at work.

If I could go back in time, I’d tell my 8-year-old self that her differences would one day become her superpowers. I’m not sure she’d believe me, but I hope I can convince you: Embrace your uniqueness. Find your voice—even when it feels different from those around you. It may take practice, but with time, your differences will become your greatest strength.